Holiday Update; The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly

Per our usual the chaos is rampant around this neck of the woods. We’ve either been on constant go or so drained that we can’t remember if we managed to feel lunch to more than dogs and kiddos. The older I get the more bitter sweet the holidays become. They are indeed a time to remember blessings, but I truly feel that should be a task for all days and all seasons and not something that should be catered and forced because the seasons turned cold and we’re all forced indoors to deal with one another. That in mind this season has come with all sorts of news. Some good, bad, and ugly.

The good news is we have officially placed an offer on a home of our own, it was countered but we have accepted and should all go well we will be new home owners come the beginning of January.  A new year, a new place, a new momentum and inspiration to keep pushing forward to tackle those dreams and goals we have for our family. While in truth the home is not in the location we had intended originally when we ventured out to chase this dream, we are happy to be moving forward. Slow progress is progress none the less. Finally a home to call “ours”.

The bad news, falls a little in line with the location. We had planned to head east to land in Georgia. But numbers did not align to make that vision come to pass. For weeks I had seen it coming. For weeks I had prayed for our path according to His will be revealed. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. We may not always know at the time, but in time they will be revealed. And so it goes to touch back to the good, we will be staying in Alaska for a little longer yet. Too many events begat events that some may consider coincidence, but I in my heart believe differently. The Eastern Dream is not dead, simply put on hold till it is our time to continue on that path.

The ugly news… I’ve been a little disappointed in some folks who shall not be named. It’s truly not my place to butt in. However I am witness to  how these people behave in times of high stress and loss. My husband’s Grandmother recently passed and while my heart goes out to those who have shown grace and humility for all this woman has sacrificed for them, my heart even more goes to this angel woman who gave all to her family without question. My heart goes out to her that she need not see or suffer pain or people anymore.

It is my deepest wish that anyone struggling during this time of year, and there are many I know personally, that they learn to take a moment, however brief, each day to count your blessings. Life has taught me time is not always kind. Tomorrow is not always promised. Not all dreams come true, because sometimes they change. No matter how bad a day can begin, it can still end being the best day it could. Focus on our blessings and gratitude will lift the soul so much higher than focus on distress for failure and lack.

Gratitude is not just a season, it is a lifestyle. In that moment when you count your blessings, be it in prayer or meditation, let go of all that tethers you to negativity, hate, and animosity. That man, at one point he was your world and the reason you smiled. That woman, she’s your sister; and as my mother always told me, “She’s all you’ll have when I’m gone.” That little boy screaming only wants your comfort because this big world is kind of scary when you think about it and he’s still learning. That preteen acting out or zoning in to the video game, just wants to be included and feel that they too are special rather than a burden.

What would your life be if you were devoid of any and all that caused heartache? Let heartache become the season and let Gratitude become the life!

As I said, chaos is rampant. In the midst of chaos it is always good to take a step back to breathe and pray and access. The path may not always be what we had planned. But it is still a path worth taking.


All my love,


1 Thessalonians 5:15-18 

15 Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. 16 Rejoice always, 17 pray continually, 18 give thanks in all circumstances;for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus